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Being In Love

When you love someone you should never try to give reasons why you love them. Whenever you explain your love you most likely make it conditional – conditional on the continuing presence of whatever those reasons are.

Love can never be explained. True love is not a concept. It is not even rational. Soul love is a state of being one with another. It is unconditional. In this state of love you live and die for another as you would for yourself. You cannot explain or justify that.

At a soul level – if not at a mental level – you know why you are together with another person. You need to trust that and allow that knowing to manifest in purposeful growth or service with them.

Mentalizing in any number of ways – explaining, justifying, defending, rationalizing, analyzing – creates distance where union was present. Love is of the heart and contains the intelligence and understanding of the heart rather than of the mind. This intelligence is not separative, as is the mental intelligence, but unitive, and therefore of the soul.

Love is not a verb. You do not love. You are in love or are not in love. When you are in love you are literally in its presence as it is in you. Feeling grateful and expressing gratitude for being embraced by love keeps it alive and nourished. This gratitude must then overflow into expressions of support, understanding, comforting and compassion toward others who are in real need. Selfish gratitude depletes love. Generosity feeds it.

Unconditional love is soul to soul contact that fully accepts the limitations of oneself and the other without judgment and with compassion.

To be in Love is the greatest privilege any human being can experience. To share that state of being with another is the greatest gift we can give.

Exercises: In a meditative, reflective state take into your heart, one by one, the important people in your life, and experience the love you share, expressing deep gratitude for each.

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