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Preparing To Die

We need to balance our life before we die. In a sense that means we need to return to our soul base. Throughout our life we have often lived as though we were only an ego rather than soul. We need to allow our true inner self or soul to re-possess our personal nature before leaving this world. Nature helps us do this, but we can help our own nature if we understand what is necessary.

When we have acted contrary to our own needs in life, have not responded to soul impulses when capable of doing so, and have not accepted full responsibility for our actions and experiences, this state of affairs needs to be rectified. No one is exempt from this.

The most traditional practices for doing this include some type of honest self-disclosure and making an account of our life’s deeds and experiences. This has at times been formalized in different traditions as a confession. The result of this re- evaluation and accounting of our life ought to lead us into the healing process of forgiveness – self-forgiveness first of all, and forgiveness of others where applicable.

Forgiveness involves an acceptance of responsibility, an understanding of the need for the experiences we rejected in order to learn, and an appreciation for the opportunity to manifest soul more fully. Forgiveness is not saying that something was wrong and that we will now ignore it. Forgiveness accepts and understands and appreciates that what has transpired was needed for learning or growth. Forgiveness flows from the wisdom and compassion of the soul within. One of the services we can provide others before they die, if they are still sufficiently present, is to help them do a life review and go through the process of forgiveness as needed.

An indication that not all is well or that we are not in harmony is our natural tendency to project onto others and life what we are not willing to take responsibility for. We blame others and life for what happens to us that we do not like or want. Whenever we project we make ourselves victims. Whatever we project we take as external fact. However, the ultimate purpose of projection is that we can use it as a mirror so we can more easily see externalized our own unconscious realities. However, it takes wisdom to recognize it as our own, and to take it back and own it.

There is a natural, healthy process that occurs as we move towards death, provided that we allow ourselves to go through it. During this time the most critical rectification that soul is able to affect within our personality is to stop us from projecting. What happens as a result of this natural personality withdrawal from the outer world that accompanies our preparation for death is an internal re-balancing process within our psyche. We then tend to stop blaming others and stop victimizing ourselves. This is accompanied by a growing acceptance of self, of life… and of impending death.

The inner conflicts then diminish and soul, in a sense, absorbs the experiences of the life with gratitude – all the experiences, whether they were positive, negative, blissful or painful. All experience is opportunity for greater inclusiveness, regardless of what we think of it or how we feel about it. Soul sees this and passes no judgement. It is the personality which judges itself, but when one is approaching death there is a wonderful opportunity to let go of this self-judgement and allow the natural soul influenced harmonizing and adjusting to be done within the psyche. The result is peace, and the ability to move through the deathing process with greater ease.

Exercises: 1. For what do you need to forgive yourself? Let go of the judgements and forgive yourself. 2.Whom do you need to forgive and thank for an experience that you found difficult to accept? Focus on the learning and growth that could result from such an experience.

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