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The Purpose of Relationship is Self
Knowledge
The
reason we exist at all is so that we can make a contribution to life
around us. That contribution, no matter how varied it is at different
times and situations in our life, is always some aspect of our life
purpose.
The
extent to which we can express our life purpose is determined by, and
limited by, the extent to which we know ourselves at all levels.
Therefore self knowledge is of utmost importance.
The
primary means of gaining self knowledge is through all of our
relationships, and especially those relationships that are closest to
us. Everything we experience in our relationships is to help us know
ourselves more fully. And that self knowledge is not possible unless we
are in relationship deliberately and consciously for the other person.
If we are not there for the other, then we become too self centered to
see ourselves honestly being reflected back to us. Without being there
for the other we become too arrogant, blaming and insensitive to see how
our challenges and reactions are about our own shadow. Without being
there for the other we do not see that the beauty and goodness reflected
back to us is about soul and not personality. Then the love and goodness
of the other is perceived as something we deserve rather than as a
reflection of the soul we share together for which we need to be
constantly grateful.
Not
seeing ourselves in others is virtually the same as looking in a mirror
and pretending that we are looking at someone else rather than at
ourselves. Others are a mirror for us.
We need
to remember that we experience what we perceive, but what we perceive is
always ourselves in another form. Our perceptions are not actions
disconnected from who we are, but arise from who we are. In fact, we are
our perceptions. They are formed by our beliefs, our thoughts, our
feelings and our conditioning. And at times are also formed by the soul
that we are.
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Exercises:
1. When you see something you do not like in another person,
ask yourself what belief or judgment you have about yourself
that relates to this.
2. When you judge another in a negative way remind yourself
that you are also judging yourself negatively. Then change that
judgment with a recognition of your own inner goodness or
beauty. Demonstrate this recognition with an act of generosity
toward another. |
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