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Relationships – A Training Ground
Relationships are the training ground for fulfilling our life’s purpose.
The people with whom we are in relationship are always demanding
something of us. They train us to give, and giving is how we fulfill our
life’s purpose. We need to give our time, our energy, our resources, and
eventually ourselves.
Our
relationships demand that we give something or give up some attachment.
They either request nicely or they demand forcefully. When love is
lacking, the demands are less pleasant. There is often an expectation
that the other will sense or know our needs without having to express
them. This often gets us into trouble because of two things:
1. we
demand that the other is a mind reader, which no one is.
2. we
avoid being clear about our own needs while feeling that we do need
something. This lack of clarity has to be addressed by ourselves. It is
part of the way personality must relate to soul. The personality’s task
is to identify the needs which exist at a personality level. This then
allows soul to respond to that awareness. Expressing this need to
another allows a response from the other, as well as a response from
within ourselves.
When we
demand and expect others to fulfill our needs or desires this is often a
misdirection. Most often we need to go to a soul level within to fulfill
the needs we have. So the dynamics of relationships typically do two
things:
1. There
is a demand or request that the other gives.
2. There
is often a resistance to the one demanding or requesting, thereby
sending the message to fulfill the need from within.
There is
value in both of these responses. It is this kind of tension that little
by little trains us to give to the other and to go within to the soul.
The more we go within the more we meet our own needs, and the more we
meet our own needs the more equipped we are to give in response to the
needs and desires of the other. This tension trains us to go to that
center within ourselves where giving to ourselves and giving to others
becomes the standard response to need. The manifestation of our life
purpose then becomes central in the way we relate to others regardless
of how they relate to us.
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Exercises:
1. When someone asks something of you begin to practice a
response that comes from the loving energy of your soul. This
might require a moments hesitation to see if there is an
automatic resistance that arises first. Consciously choosing a
soul response lessens the unconscious resistance.
2. Become more aware of your own real needs, as opposed to
just simple desires, and lovingly fulfill them so that you are
more free to be generous and kind in your responses to others.
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